This material will help you to overcome all those negative appearances. It will help you appear strong, unlike a doormat kind of guy who is groveling just to gain even the tiniest bit of her attention. Most importantly you will feel better about yourself. Your hurt or depression will end sooner. You will even be able to help your buddies in their time of need.
Your Biggest Enemies
If you start imagining or wondering what she is doing, wondering where she is, wondering whom she is with, if she ever thinks of you, or if she is dating someone else, those thoughts will simply drive you crazy. It is torture. Worse yet, asking her those questions will almost certainly annoy her. It will either turn her off or push her away further.
If she has gone on a date or just started dating someone regularly, you may start wondering, just who the heck is this guy? Why him? Is he more romantic than I am? Is he a better lover? Is he richer than I am? When did she meet him?
Thinking on those things can only help make you more depressed, more desperate, and will further the cycle. As a result, everything you do, say, write, or text will end up hurting you even more, pushing her further away, and keeping you on the sidelines longer.
As the time passes you will just feel worse and worse. The worse you feel the more anything you do or say will further work against you making your relationship situation even worse.
At this point you will begin to lose more control of your emotions. Depression and fear will kick in. Fear of never having her back will feed your desperation. Fear and desperation are your biggest enemies.
Fear and desperation will cause you to unknowingly sabotage your chances of ever getting back together. They will keep you hurting and in pain longer. They may even bring out anger out of you. Anger has no place here and can only make things worse. You will only appear even more unstable to her as she sees your moods and actions fluctuate between extremes.
